Inspired Singleness - Laetitia Zeeman

 

I am inviting you to walk with me a few minutes.  Investigate something with me.

Since being engaged after being single “again” for 16 years, I receive numerous phone calls and questions from single people asking me for advice.

The purpose of this devotion is to inspire you as a single person.

I want to start by saying: “Singleness is NOT a curse”.

Being married is a calling.

Being single is also a calling.

And if you don’t treat it as such, you will never find happiness.

You have to know who you are before you can truly get to know someone else.

I never dated after getting divorced while my sons were still in my house, under my care.  I did not even go on a coffee date.  Not a single one.

I treated “single parenthood” as a ministry, a calling and when people asked, I simply made a joke, saying: “Where on earth will I fit dating into my busy schedule”.

And honestly?  I have no regrets.  I look at my grown-up sons and I am grateful to God for giving Grace to simply journey through those years.

Without elaborating too much on the subject, the second thing I want to share is:

God will NEVER EVER send you, someone else’s husband.

Marriage is a covenant.

Sadly, I see so many Christians adapted to the world.

Even Christians move in together, stay together without getting married, without being fully committed.

And then they wonder why things just do not work.

 So many couples, moving in together without getting married, struggling to have peace or live-in unity with one another.

Without commitment, treating marriage as a covenant, you will never experience the same blessing, the glory, the joy, power of marriage, how God intended marriage to be, and you will never really become ONE in the same way God intended the marriage covenant to be.

Additionally, I want to add:

Before entering into a relationship, you have to deal with your past.

One broken person coming together with another broken person don’t make one whole person.

Two broken people coming together equals double trouble.

Become whole before entering into any kind of relationship.

Today, I am so grateful that I took time to heal from past soul wounds.

You become what you behold.

Listen to what David says in Psalm 119:37

“Help me turn my eyes away from illusions so that I pursue only that which is true;

Drench my soul with life as I walk in your paths.

Reassure me of your promises, for I am your beloved ….

2 Corinthians 3:18, also in The Passion Translation says:

We can all draw close to him with the veil removed from our faces. And with no veil we all become like mirrors who brightly reflect the glory of the Lord Jesus. We are being transfigured into his very image as we move from one brighter level of glory to another. And this glorious transfiguration comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.

May this inspire you, to set your face like a flint.

Behold Him!

And as you move into deeper dimensions with Him, you will go from Glory to Glory and the right one will find you in the Glory.

Another question I receive is how to know when a man is interested in you:

Well, he will tell you.  Ha-ha!

He will invest in you.

He will smile at you a lot.

He will try to get close to you.

He will be jealous of men you spend time with.

You will catch him looking at you.

You will make him laugh.

He will look into your eyes.

He will listen to you carefully.

He will text you all the time.

He will want to spend time with you.

So, stop chasing ladies … you will know …

If a man is really interested, you will know.

If a man is really interested in you, he would want to commit, in fear of losing you.

If a man is really interested in you, he will come for you.

The man of my heart first told me, then he came for me, all the way from Klerksdorp to Mossel Bay to put a ring on my finger and then he came again to fetch me to make me part of his life.

There was no guessing if he is really interested.  I knew.

I want to inspire you as a single person to make Philippians 3:8-10 your motto.

Constantly meditate on this.

It says in the Passion Translation:

To truly know him meant letting go of everything from my past and throwing all my boasting on the garbage heap. It’s all like a pile of manure to me now, so that I may be enriched in the reality of knowing Jesus Christ and embrace him as Lord in all of his greatness.

My passion is to be consumed with him and not cling to my own “righteousness” based in keeping the written Law. My only “righteousness” will be his, based on the faithfulness of Jesus Christ—the very righteousness that comes from God.  And I continually long to know the wonders of Jesus and to experience the overflowing power of his resurrection working in me. I will be one with him in his sufferings and become like him in his death.

May you have a wonderful, blessed day.  May goodness and mercy follow you all the days of your lives and may the right one (not in your eyes, but in God’s eyes) come along in His perfect timing.

Trust God.

Laetitia Zeeman